The idea of being the centre of attention on a wedding day is a big concern for many couples. It’s not just the wedding couple either; the nerves and anxiety surrounding this idea of being ‘watched and judged’ can affect brides, grooms, best men, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls and parents of the happy couple.
Hell, even the wedding professionals, registrars, celebrants and ministers get some wobbles about all eyes being on them and not wanting to ‘mess up’.
… and there’s the crux of the matter – we don’t want to mess up. This day is so important to us and we don’t want to do anything that will make it less than perfect. When we add this kind of pressure on to our own feelings around self-confidence and self-belief it can be a volatile combination which means our behaviours become influenced by our negative thoughts.
Our worries take over and before we know it, our anxious feelings are overwhelming us to the point it is affecting our enjoyment of the day.
But it doesn’t have to be this way – we can change the narrative.
Yes, being the centre of attention can be quite unfamiliar for many people who may have shy traits and characteristics and it might be abnormal from our usual day to day activity to suddenly be in the limelight, but just because something is unfamiliar or uncomfortable doesn’t make it bad.
These feelings and emotions can be managed, as long as we’re putting in place the strategies to manage them, but that’s why you’re reading this book isn’t it? To pick up the strategies to help you get emotionally fitter so you can manage not just your emotions, but everything you have on your metaphorical plate.
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